Need Help!
I have a friend who is dating a christian man. and she is a new christian believer.
Infront of everyone he is charming and lovable…but behind closed doors he is
verbally abusive and manipulating her emotionally and claiming that most of it is satanic attack.
Her family and friends all dislike him and they are worried because she is always sad and withdrawn…. he is threatening for her not to listen to them..because they are not christian …but she is miserable. What bible verses can I show her to help her. I’m worried about her.
They are not married and I only want to see her happy and in a healthy relationship.
Hi Julie,
My first response is to answer this very carefully since don’t know the situation or individuals firsthand. Regarding the man, first of all there are many out there who claim to be a Christian but that does not mean that the individual has truly understood the implications of what it truly means to be a follower of Christ. Since I don’t know his story and what he bases his claims of being a christian on, I will have to leave that in God’s hands.
However, about your friend who is a new believer it’s sounds like she just wants to be loved and is willing to settle for what she thinks is a loving relationship. What a great opportunity for you to encourage her to begin developing a daily walk with Jesus. Prayer, and reading God’s word are the essential tools to help her in growing in her knowledge of God’s love for her and His wonderful plan for her life. Once she begins to find her identity as a woman of God through His word, she will begin to realize that His plan for her is so much better than her own. She will discover that His definition of love between two people is far higher than how the world defines it. Encourage her to attend a solid bible teaching church and perhaps the two of you could meet weekly to do a bible study together.
One book I highly recommend for single women is “Lady In Waiting” by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones.
I am a mother of 2 teenage children ages 16 and 19. I became saved 8 yrs ago. I grew up in the church and remembered the feeling I had in being forced to go to service. Not wanting that same feeling for my children. I didn’t make them go to church as they grew older. I felt as if they would be witnessed to through the actions of my husband and I. Needless to say this was not the best practice and in hind site I should have made them go. Presently I am reaping the results of the influence of the world on my teens. I don’t know how to get them to diecast at this point. Please keep me in prayer.
Hi Paris thank you for writing in and sharing your heart with me. While our children were living at home Steve and I always made “going to church” a must. It was never a suggestion, an invitation waiting for reply, or “let’s see if they want to” kind of a thing. Why? We knew that the bible clearly commanded us as parents that this was our responsibility to raise our children in the way of the Lord and part of that was to be in church as a family. Did our children always want to be at church? NO! But my husband and I were committed to obey our part in God’s design for our family. Until they day our children got married and left home we still upheld this principle.
Paris, there is hope! As you said in your own words that hind site has shown you what you should have done differently, it’s not too late. Once we agree with God it’s never too late to turn your parenting responsibilities over to Him. As long as your children are living at home your husband, as the spiritual leader of your home, can enforce a new mandate. Here it is, “We go to church as a family”! As you stand by him in support, your children will see this and quickly realize that you both mean business.
Parenting is a great privilege that God has entrusted to us. However, it’s not easy and there will be a lot of “role up your sleeves” work involved. But as parents we must do the right thing by honoring God and doing what’s best for our kids whether they get it or not. THis is the best form of love we can model for them!
Please check out the short video’s I posted in the “Parenting” category of my blog. Their great!
Need Help!
I have a friend who is dating a christian man. and she is a new christian believer.
Infront of everyone he is charming and lovable…but behind closed doors he is
verbally abusive and manipulating her emotionally and claiming that most of it is satanic attack.
Her family and friends all dislike him and they are worried because she is always sad and withdrawn…. he is threatening for her not to listen to them..because they are not christian …but she is miserable. What bible verses can I show her to help her. I’m worried about her.
They are not married and I only want to see her happy and in a healthy relationship.
Hi Julie,
My first response is to answer this very carefully since don’t know the situation or individuals firsthand. Regarding the man, first of all there are many out there who claim to be a Christian but that does not mean that the individual has truly understood the implications of what it truly means to be a follower of Christ. Since I don’t know his story and what he bases his claims of being a christian on, I will have to leave that in God’s hands.
However, about your friend who is a new believer it’s sounds like she just wants to be loved and is willing to settle for what she thinks is a loving relationship. What a great opportunity for you to encourage her to begin developing a daily walk with Jesus. Prayer, and reading God’s word are the essential tools to help her in growing in her knowledge of God’s love for her and His wonderful plan for her life. Once she begins to find her identity as a woman of God through His word, she will begin to realize that His plan for her is so much better than her own. She will discover that His definition of love between two people is far higher than how the world defines it. Encourage her to attend a solid bible teaching church and perhaps the two of you could meet weekly to do a bible study together.
One book I highly recommend for single women is “Lady In Waiting” by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones.
I am a mother of 2 teenage children ages 16 and 19. I became saved 8 yrs ago. I grew up in the church and remembered the feeling I had in being forced to go to service. Not wanting that same feeling for my children. I didn’t make them go to church as they grew older. I felt as if they would be witnessed to through the actions of my husband and I. Needless to say this was not the best practice and in hind site I should have made them go. Presently I am reaping the results of the influence of the world on my teens. I don’t know how to get them to diecast at this point. Please keep me in prayer.
Hi Paris thank you for writing in and sharing your heart with me. While our children were living at home Steve and I always made “going to church” a must. It was never a suggestion, an invitation waiting for reply, or “let’s see if they want to” kind of a thing. Why? We knew that the bible clearly commanded us as parents that this was our responsibility to raise our children in the way of the Lord and part of that was to be in church as a family. Did our children always want to be at church? NO! But my husband and I were committed to obey our part in God’s design for our family. Until they day our children got married and left home we still upheld this principle.
Paris, there is hope! As you said in your own words that hind site has shown you what you should have done differently, it’s not too late. Once we agree with God it’s never too late to turn your parenting responsibilities over to Him. As long as your children are living at home your husband, as the spiritual leader of your home, can enforce a new mandate. Here it is, “We go to church as a family”! As you stand by him in support, your children will see this and quickly realize that you both mean business.
Parenting is a great privilege that God has entrusted to us. However, it’s not easy and there will be a lot of “role up your sleeves” work involved. But as parents we must do the right thing by honoring God and doing what’s best for our kids whether they get it or not. THis is the best form of love we can model for them!
Please check out the short video’s I posted in the “Parenting” category of my blog. Their great!